As has been stated before, because of the symmetry of the created world in which we live, there always has been two different sides, aspects, or angles to every issue involved in the manner and way that man and woman live and exist here on earth.  It all started way back before the creation of the earth as we know it today.  It all started in the expanse of the heavens wherein was fought a civil war of sorts against God and His rulership of His Kingdom.  The two warring legends were God and two-thirds of His Archangels who were embattled against Lucifer (Satan) and one-third of the Archangels.  Not surprisingly,…God won.  Satan and one-third of the Archangels were thrown out of heaven and cast down to the earth to rule and reign over it until the end of time was to come.  We live with that situation today…in a fallen world,…whether we like it or not!

Down through the ages of time there has developed those same two mighty forces and they have remained in constant conflict as of today.  Those same two forces are continually battling for control of every man, woman and child’s mind.  Those two individual powerhouses of strength are God and Satan.  Their theatre of war is in a human being’s personal mind….brain….spiritual heart!   Do not discount that the war exists and continues to rage in our world today.  Make no mistake about its existence. 

Every lie given to you by Lucifer and/or his evil demon spirits will always have a single minute string of truth woven into it so as to gain your attention and make it sound like it could be the actual truth.  Satan’s lies are always designed to make you question or even doubt the Truth of The Word of God!  There is only one way to protect yourself from falling victim to Satan’s lies and consequently losing the battle for your mind.  This explicit solution is for you personally to read, learn, and know what God’s Holy Word, as recorded within the pages of His Holy Bible, says about the issues of life you are being challenged about from the warring Satanic party in conflict with God.  See John 8 : 31-32  NKJV.

(31)  “Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, ‘If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed.

(32)  And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.’ ”

You alone are in control of your own thoughts and thought processes.  You alone are personally responsible for all of your own decisions.  If it is indeed your personal desire to become successful and simultaneously become happy during the process, then you had better obediently follow the instructions of God’s Word and learn the Truth of Life.  It is the knowledge of the Truth that, in fact, will set you free!

With all of that said, let us now return to the subject at hand…Having a Happy Marriage.  We will examine this topic from the Biblical side of the issue….which because God created man…is always the right side.

The other day while I was sitting in my church, at which I am a member, my pastor, Terry Little, made a most profound statement that immediately caused me to sit straight up and listen.  He said, “I have finally figured out why so many people who get married, all too often get a divorce.  The reason is really quite simple, they all too hurriedly married the wrong person!”  That profound piece of wisdom is so very true!

I personally have only been married once to one woman. This marital union lasted for just over forty-two wonderful years of story-book happiness.  During that time I had the honor to share my joy-filled life with my precious bride, Jan.  

There are no mistakes made by our wonderful Heavenly Father.  For His reasons, He called Jan home to be with Him in heaven in September 2011.  The void in my heart will never be adequately filled.  I do miss her so very very much.  When a man and a woman commit their lives to each for the the remainder of their physical lives and the two become one as commanded by Scripture, physical death brings that physical oneness to a close here on earth.  

Our marriage was filled with joy and happiness from the “get-go.”  It is truly because we were so much in love.  We were so glad and happy to know in our own individual hearts that we had not “rushed” things,…that we had both met and chosen the “right one” to become our lifetime soul mate.  

We didn’t rush right from the first date into looking at wedding rings.  We didn’t “try” the blessings and benefits of a marital union before the wedding ceremony.  We didn’t “experiment” with out-of-place or out-of-line physical activities in any way at all…as a matter of fact, the closest I ever got to an intimate “touch” of any kind for over two months was a hand shake at the end of a date.  We entered into the joy and happiness of a new marital relationship with the shared new excitement of lots of “firsts.”  Things started great and promised only to get better from here on out.  We had “no regrets” going into the marriage relationship, and shared only the respect and excitement of the way that life would unfold for us in the days ahead.  Positive excited anticipation was the roadmap for our future together.

The selection of your lifetime soul-mate is the second most important decision of your life.  It is preceded only by accepting Jesus Christ into your spiritual heart as your personal Lord, Master, and Savior.  Because of its importance to your entire life and future, doesn’t it just make good plain common sense to enter into that selection process with a great deal of knowledge, understanding, commitment and care?  All too often today, the choice of a lifetime mate is made strictly out of the feelings and direction of run-away emotional involvement, elevated boiling hormonal levels, or sadly under the pressures of trying to make one bad decision better,… by making another second bad decision of marrying the wrong person because of poor choices.  If you desire to live a joy-filled life above ground,…don’t start your marriage relationship out in a hole.

From my nearly seven decades of life I would share with you that true and lasting happiness can only enter and stay within the confines of your personal life when you live and abide by God’s Laws and not your own.  As a point of clarity, you will never have to wonder or guess if you are living your life in accordance with God’s Laws.  If there is any doubt in your mind about it,….then for certain you are NOT living by His Laws!  You will definitely know in your own heart when you are living in accordance with God’s Laws.  Your conscience will either confirm it or torment you until you change!  Remember, His promise to you was that for those who choose Him as the Lord of their life, He has come to the earth to give you life, and give it to you in more abundant quantity than you could ever personally dream or imagine it could be given! 

Please permit me to ask you two point blank questions about your personal life…..Are you experiencing abundant life?…OR…are some immediate adjustments to the manner and way you are living required?  I would respectfully remind you that only you can do anything about those all important changes that need to be made.  Do not procrastinate in making them any longer.

For those who have been “Born Again,”  for those who have requested Jesus Christ to come into their life and be their Lord, Master, and Savior,… all they need to do to make corrective adjustments is to openly confess their sinful ways to God,…then ask God to forgive them of their transgressions,…then repent of their incorrect ways and start conducting themselves in a proper manner,… and finally get back into total submission to living in accord with God’s Laws.  Those are the procedures to make necessary corrections.  See 1 John 1 : 8-10  NKJV:

(8)   “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

(9)    If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

(10)  If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.” 

Joy and happiness are always coming into your life whenever you are living in total submission to God and His laws!…But so will strife and struggle.

I am not saying that there never will be any suffering, heartache, or misery ever to come into your marriage relationship as you move forward from the alter where you gave and received your marriage vows. Do you really remember what you vowed to each other before God and in the presence of witnesses?  Sorrowfully, most people don’t remember. 

There will always be stresses and pressures by and between a husband and his wife,… but how you handle and deal with solving those painful issues will make all of the difference as to their actual impact and effect that they have on your marital relationship.  

Godly righteousness is the real secret to a happy and joyful marriage.  

Forgiveness of one another of the marriage partners for mistakes, poor decisions, improper behavior or speech, foolishness, forgetfulness, and failure to love and respect one another at all times can always be overcome by both partners continuously exemplifying God’s Grace in your respect and treatment of each other.

A final piece of experience I offer to you.  It is the same thing I tell every newly wed person whose wedding ceremony I attend…. “Never be in a hurry.  Enjoy every single moment of your honeymoon….as it will only happen one time in your life.  Take things slowly and serve your new partner-in-life.  Remember, “yes” is the most powerful word in the English language.  It fits every occasion and always carries with it more positive benefits than negative ones….And…make absolute certain that you both treat each other with the same amount of love and respect for each other… for the rest of your life… that you will treat each other with over the next week of your honeymoon. 

You may ask, in disgust,…why do I have to do all the “forgiveness stuff?”  The simple answer is…because Jesus Christ did it for you, and it cost Him His life,…over two thousand years ago.  That is why!

Have A Great Forever!……………